Earlier this year, I wrote a post about my #3YearGoals. Despite identifying as an ambitious person, specific goals weren’t something I often thought about. Writing that post, I was glad to have the chance to sit down and really think about what it is that I wanted to accomplished. Sometimes my goals change, sometimes they stay the same. For example, my goal to move to Toronto three months ago has changed… since I now live here. CHECK! Or, on the more constant side, at this point in my life, children are not part my plan.
You know what I’m loving for fall? Vintage denim + 70’s-inspired boots. You know what I won’t be wearing this fall? Maternity clothes.
One my best friends just gave birth to a beautiful baby boy. We could not be more thrilled for her (I’m an Auntie!), and while it was perfect timing for her, I’m just not there yet. For all you moms reading this post, I have nothing but the deepest respect for the incredible job you are doing to raise your little beauties 🙂
As for me, I want such a massive life-changer to be on my schedule, making it critical to stay on top of my birth control. Speaking of which, September 26th is World Contraception Day. I think it’s an important milestone to celebrate, especially since the birth control dialogue is finally no longer taboo in Canada (which we are incredibly fortunate about, but that’s a separate topic).
The fact that women are feeling more comfortable than ever to discuss this with their families, partners, and healthcare providers on September 26th is cause for celebration. But I would argue that every day is birth control day. We are lucky enough to live in a place where we have a huge array of options that best fit our lifestyle (not to mention the financial ability to access those options). We are lucky girls, who almost don’t even have to think about a privilege our fore(child)bears would have only dreamed about.
I recognize that this may not be directly fashion-related post, but with my miniature-sized soapbox, I wanted to share my thoughts on such an important issue. This fall, I plan on shopping at Nordstrom and Aritzia, not OshKoshBGosh and Baby Gap. There will be a time in my life when I am absolutely thrilled to be in mommy-mode, but I am grateful to have the flexibility to decide for myself when that time is.
Plus… I’m barely able to keep up with a dog and a boy these days 🙂
Photos by Andrew Cameron
Shot in collaboration with Bayer
Great look! It is really an important issue you’re talking about – birth control means so much freedom to all of us and gives us the chance to decide when we are ready to be a mummy! I have it totally with you right now, btw 🙂
xx Mirjam // http://www.miiju.ch
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Thanks love! Agreed!
xx Jill
I feel similarly to you on the children front. I’m 23, so some might say that I’m too young to even consider children, but I’ve thought ahead and I feel like I probably won’t be ready until I’m past the age of 30. I like the idea of children and of building a family but I can’t imagine doing that at a major cost to my career – which is really important to me. I also don’t want to neglect my children and family by having a family before I’m ready. No one deserves that. So I really want to approach that type of decision carefully and am ALSO being diligent about my birth control. My boyfriend feels the same. It’s not time for that shit yet lmao. But it seems like every other day people are getting engaged on Facebook or having children!
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Absolutely, it’s important to be ready and make that decision consciously!
xx Jill
Thank you for this post! I’ve been feeling a bit of pressure to start a family by being around so many couples with young kids that it’s nice to read about someone else who has made the same decision I have and is completely content with their current situation (no children). Rock on! Xx
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Thank you for your sweet comment, I’m so glad my post resonated with you! It’s why I blog in the first place 🙂
xx Jill
I’m with you on this. I would love to have kids, but not ready to do so for another couple of years. I have a wedding next year and want to move to Europe for a few months. But I’ve never been the person to hide how I feel or feel afraid to talk about birth control with others. We are so lucky we live in a country where we can control that ourselves. Have you heard the news from Egypt? Horrible!
Love your honesty!
Leslie
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Yes, absolutely! And no, what happened?!
Thanks for your comment Leslie 🙂
xx Jill
looking wonderful. thanks for sharing pictures.